Bluebird Tea

One of the things my daughter and I really enjoy is afternoon tea. My son joins us occasionally depending on the food selection, but it's really not his cup of tea. (I think that is my first ever pun!).

We first started taking tea when my friend, Tina, and her family introduced us to the concept. She also introduced us to the wonderful world of Jane Austen. I guess God gave me some cultured friends to add a little refinement to our lives since it was...lacking.

Sometimes our families get together for tea parties, though with four busy teenagers between us that's a little difficult these days. At times the teas have been very simple fare and at other times we've had high tea which includes meaty dishes like chicken salad and quiche. Whatever we do it's just fun to take a little respite from the world around us and enjoy each other, but as I said, we haven't been able to swing it much lately with their family.

So I decided that my daughter and I would just have to carry on the tradition just the two of us. And in addition we've started nature journaling, another thing I knew very little about, a new concept introduced by yet another cultured friend, Beth.

We have no specific agenda, but we do plan to have some themed teas because we're just funky people that like to make themes for everything. This is a picture of our first themed tea: a bluebird tea.

Can you guess why we called it that? I picked up those adorable little dishes on our way back from Amish country last year. They were on deep discount at Cracker Barrel, which seems to be a great place to locate tea pots and such.

Our menu included store bought blueberry muffins and fresh strawberries. We thought about having blueberry tea in keeping with the blue theme, but we weren't sure we would like it so we opted for the tangerine orange zinger sun tea we'd made the day before. Cold tea in a pot for hot tea- works for us.

The plan was to do some bird watching and drawing. Every time I think of bird watching Jane Hathaway from The Beverly Hillbillies comes to mind. When I was a kid I swore I'd never bird watch just because I didn't want to be like Jane. But here I am all grown up watching birds and probably more like Jane than I'd care to admit.

Anyway, nary a bird came nigh, so my daughter drew the front and back of a lamb's ear leaf from our natural area, which is very natural at present. I drew the strawberry on my plate. Now I remember why I never became an artist, but I did see a lot of intricate details about strawberries that I'd never noticed before.

I will continue to share our little impromptu tea parties from time to time, but if you are really interested in tea you must check out this awesome site that was recommended to me by Sandy. As we say down south, that site makes me happier than a pig in poop. At least that's my refined opinion on the issue!

Eye Opening Experiences

A few days ago I was trying to locate something in the refrigerator. I looked and looked to no avail. Just as I was about to shut the door I saw it right there in front of me. How could I have missed it? As I was reading my Bible this morning I discovered other instances where we look, but we don't actually see.

Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Genesis 3:7

Adam and Eve were naked all along. Genesis 2:25 says they weren't ashamed of it either. Yet, when Satan and sin entered the scene they were "enlightened" to the fact that they were naked and they immediately started trying to hide. Unfortunately, sin destroys innocence and opens our eyes to a lot of things we would be better off not knowing.

Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. So she went and filled the skin with water and gave the boy a drink. Genesis 21:19

Hagar and her son, Ismael, had been wondering around in the hot desert and now their water was gone. Hagar left her son under a bush to die and she went off to die herself. God opened her eyes to His provision- a well of water. It's interesting to me that Hagar hid Ismael under a bush, but it never occurred to her that the bush must have a water source nearby.

Sometimes we need God to open our eyes to His provision too. Hint: It often comes wearing overalls and looks like work. Notice that even in her dehydrated delerium Hagar had to get to the water and make the effort to fill the skin.

Then the Lord opened Balaam's eyes, and he saw the angel of the Lord standing in the road with his sword drawn. So he bowed low and fell facedown. Numbers 22:31

Balaam was disobeying God and his donkey had more sense than he did. The donkey clearly saw the angel waiting to slay Balaam and the donkey had sense enough to try to spare his life. God used the donkey to open Balaam's eyes to the fact that he was in real danger.

Sometimes we need God to open our eyes to danger too so we can steer clear of it. Whenever we get off track into disobedience we are definitely in danger in one way or another because we are outside of God's will.

And Elisha prayed, "O Lord, open his eyes so he may see." Then the Lord opened the servants eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha. II Kings 6:17

Elisha and his servant were surrounded by enemies on every side. The servant was fearful and didn't know what to do. Elisha told him not to fear because they had more on their side than against them. God opened the servant's eyes to see God's protecting army all around them.

Sometimes when we're fearful we need God to open our eyes to the fact that He is greater than our enemies or anything that causes us to be afraid.

Then their eyes were opened and they recognized him, and he disappeared from their sight. Acts 24:31

After his resurrection, Jesus walked and talked with two of his disciples, but they didn't recognize Him at first. Like those disciples, we don't always recognize God's presence. This is especially true when we find ourselves in the midst of trials and tribulations. God can seem so far away and we may need our eyes opened to His presence, which never leaves us.

Immediately, something like scales fell from Saul's eyes, and he could see again. He got up and was baptized, and after taking some food, he regained his strength. Acts 9:18-19

Saul set out to round up and destroy the Christians in Damascus. On the way there, suddenly a blinding light shone from heaven and he heard the Lord speaking to him. For three days afterward he was blind and didn't eat or drink anything. God sent a man named Ananias to pray for him and when he did Saul's eyes were opened again.

Unbelievers who are blinded to the truth, need to have their eyes opened so they can see Jesus for who he really is. They need us to pray for them!

My favorite scripture regarding the opening of eyes is Psalm 119:18: Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law. This has been my prayer for many years because sometimes it isn't just unbelievers that are blinded to the truth of God's word. We can read the same passages year after year and miss some very important truths. My prayer for you and for me today is that our eyes would be opened to God's word and to all that He is doing in our lives.

The Moment Every Parent Dreads

This is my son.

This is a car key.






This is my son putting the key in the ignition.

This is my son driving off alone with a valid driver's license.

(Not pictured: Me running after him hanging on the bumper screaming, "Don't go! Please don't go!")

We Have Our Winners!

Thanks so much to all of you who entered my bloggy giveaway and to those of you who just stopped by to look around. I wish I could give each of you a prize, but I can only give away two this time. However, I can offer each of you a free weekly email for writers. See the info for Encouraging Words for Writers in my sidebar. Also, if you stop in from time to time you will find lots of other information for writers, teachers, homeschoolers, women and so much more. You never know when I might decide to host another giveaway too!

But you want to know the winners so let's get down to business.

By random selection, the winner of my Hands-On Essays curriculum is Mandi and the winner of Behind the Stories by Diane Eble is Jinxy & Me. Congratulations!

I've already sent emails to the winners and they need to contact me with their names and addresses before Wednesday, April 30 so I won't have to pick new winners. Editing to say that Mandi, your email bounced back to me so I hope you see this notification. I will leave a post on your blog too. If someone knows Mandi please let her know that she won so she can claim her prize before Wednesday. Thanks!

Thanks to everyone for making this Bloggy Giveaway a big success!

My Date With a Hunky Younger Man

Tonight I went on a date with a handsome, loving sixteen year old guy. I'm surprised my mother let me go since he just got his driver's license, but she's rather fond of this particular fella. I'm even more surprised that my husband was open to my dating someone else, but he actually encouraged me to do it! Tonight I had a date with my son.

Originally, he had planned to go to Smoky Bones with his best buddy, but his best buddy had to cancel. Since my son reeeally had his heart set on some baby back ribs, he decided that he still wanted to go there anyway. So, he asked me to go on a dinner date with him.

I was in shock. "You want me to go??? Just me??? You really want to spend your sixteenth birthday with your mother???"

Now I realize that I wasn't his first choice and it's no coincidence that I'm the person footing the bill, but seriously, have you ever heard of a sixteen year old boy in the United States of America in this day and age choosing to spend his sweet sixteen birthday on a date with his mother? I don't deserve any credit, but I'm really impressed with my boy!

We ate ribs and talked about his job and the Red Sox. We bantered back and forth with our American Idol critiques and just genuinely enjoyed one another's company.

And tonight as I sit watching the sun sink in the sky I treasure this evening in my heart. I will always remember it. Even when I'm old and gray I'll recall every detail, every word, and the youthful face of my son will be forever etched in my memory. I love you, my precious boy!

Lord, thank you for this son who is a joy and delight. And thank you, Father, that you knew my mother's heart had been through a lot of trauma this week with big milestone birthdays. What a tender, beautiful gift you gave me- a date with my son. You and I both know that all too soon other young ladies will gain his attention, but for this night, this one night, I got to be the center of all his affections just once more. I am forever grateful!

Sewing Tips

I saw this on another blog and just had to share it here. It comes from a 1949 Singer Sewing Machine manual.

"Prepare yourself mentally for sewing. Think about what you are going to do. Never approach sewing with a sigh or lackadaisically. Good results are difficult when indifference predominates.

Never sew with a sink full of dirty dishes or beds unmade. When there are urgent housekeeping chores, do these first so that your mind is free to enjoy your sewing.

When you sew, make yourself as attractive as possible. Put on a clean dress. Keep a little bag of French chalk near your sewing machine to dust your fingers at intervals. Have your hair in order, powder and lipstick on.If you are constantly fearful that a visitor will drop in or your husband will come home and you will not look neatly put together, you will not enjoy sewing as you should."

And this, my friends, is precisely the reason I don't sew!

The Birthday Zone

If I seem rather quiet on my blog this week and if I've totally strayed from listing unusual celebrations it's because I have some unusual celebrations of my own. I've entered (eerie music playing)...the birthday zone. Well, that and the fact that I'm spending inordinate amounts of time over here trying to win free stuff.

Yes, folks, even though there are 11 other perfectly good months in the year and even though each year has 51 other perfectly fine weeks, we managed to have both of our children within days of one another. Well, actually, we had a few years between those days, but their birthdates fall within days of each other.

When they were young we thought we had an advantage over other parents. We had one party for both and got off cheap. It was actually a party for my son and my daughter was so young that she just sort of tagged along and didn't know the difference. She thought all girls had construction worker parties and were dressed in Batman shirts and capes on their birthdays. And we wonder why she's a tomboy?!

When they got a little older we were still pretty cocky about our birthday status as we saw the longing in other parent's eyes to just get it all over with in a single week of the year. At that point our pat answer for birthdays was to just pile everybody into the car and head to the beach for a week. Everybody wins.

Then it happened. They wanted separate parties. We were devastated. Our little plan (or lack of planning) backfired on us. That was bad enough, but now we've come to this particular birthday week which is like no other.

As of this week, I no longer have young children in my home. I only have teenagers.

As if that wasn't bad enough, one of those teenagers wants to get his driver's license.

Why don't they just rip my little Mama's heart out and stomp it into the ground?

So, this week we are on spring break so Mama can take her mind off of the major events in her life by obsessing over winning prizes here and stuffing herself with the gluttonous amount of junk food that has come into the house under the guise of "celebrating". (And no, it's not low cholesterol, but low cholesterol foods are not comfort foods and right now I need comfort foods. So there.)

The kids, on the other hand are saying, "Hot Diggity!" because we usually don't take spring breaks. Plus, they are way too busy texting on their new cell phones to worry about school work and unimportant stuff like that. Yes, we caved and got them cell phones. They were sharing one "extremely old and embarrassing phone" as they called it and the reception had gotten so bad that you couldn't get a call if you were inside a building or had it in your pocket. Plus, the times they threw... uh...I mean dropped it on hard concrete floors probably didn't help much either. They are here, there, and everywhere these days so we need to be able to reach them and they, of course, NEED to text their friends.

That's my week in a nutshell. I'm partying and paying, partying and paying.

Some of you may read this and think, "But my kids are so young, I don't have to think about all that teenage stuff for a long time." But it's really just a blink of an eye. I can remember in vivid detail when my kids were just tiny little people and I thought these days would never come- I also thought I'd die of sleep deprivation, but that's another story for another time. The time goes so very, very quickly. If I could give one piece of advice to parents of young children it would be this: Savor every moment you have with your children and take nothing for granted. And don't let the world distract you or tell you that there are more important things to tend to in life. Love them now and when they are big teenagers they will still come up and hug you (when no one is looking of course) and say, "I love you." And then they'll ask for money (just kidding- sort of). What can the world offer that compares with that?

Encouraging Words for Writers Sample

Below you'll find this week's Encouraging Words for Writers email. I wanted to post a sample for those of you who don't currently receive this free weekly email. If you like what you read and would like to subscribe just shoot me an email and let me know.

Programming Your Mind to Write
By Bonita Lillie
Copyright 2008
(Encouraging Words for Writers # 61)

I couldn’t understand it. This was not a writing day and yet the words weren’t just flowing, they were completely overtaking me. They weren’t just articles or small pieces. No, this was a full-fledged book spewing forth. I wrote with a pen in one hand and a dryer in the other. I scribbled an entire page as I ate breakfast. I wrote at stoplights and as I pushed a cart up and down grocery aisles. In fact, I couldn’t stop writing! But why was it happening on this particular day when I had so many other things to do and no plans to write?

As I pondered, it dawned on me. I had been setting aside certain hours, the same hours every day, to devote to writing. Even though I had no plans to write on this particular day, I’d formed a habit of writing during a certain time frame. Right on cue my brain kicked in, clueless to the fact that I had other plans for the day.

Up to that point I never realized that we can actually program our minds to write. If we habitually set aside certain times in our day to write, even if it’s only for a few minutes, it will eventually become a ritual that our brain expects. This can make life considerably easier for a writer.

Think about it. How many times have you sat down to write only to discover that you just couldn’t get started or couldn’t get in the swing of things? Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you could just immediately get in the flow and start writing? You can. But you may have to train your mind to cooperate first.

I challenge you to set aside regular writing time and stick with it for 21 days. That’s the amount of time experts say it takes to develop a habit. Eventually, you’ll find that writing becomes much easier, at least during your specified time frame. Your brain will become much like your stomach at meal times. It will demand that you write.

Bloggy Giveaway

It' Bloggy Giveaway time! I'm offering two different things, both of which pertain to writing since I understand we're supposed to offer things that reflect us. First, I'd like to give away a free copy of my curriculum, Hands-On Essays. The publisher's version is so hot off the press that I don't have it in my hands yet, so I'm offering my self-published version. This is a DVD/handbook combo curriculum designed to help teens and preteens master the essay. If you know of anyone who is planning to go to college, taking the SAT test, or just trying to learn essays, this is a simple, fun method of learning. Check out a sample of a lesson from both DVD and handbook here. It's a $50 value and a great deal, if I do say so myself!

The other thing I'd like to give away is a copy of one of my favorite writing books called Behind the Stories by Diane Eble. This book tells the stories of how some of today's top Christian fiction writers came into their calling. It's a great read if you enjoy writing or if you like reading biographies.

To enter the contest simply leave a comment below and be sure to include your name, even if you sign up as anonymous. Tell me whether you want the book, the curriculum, or if you'd like to be entered for both (you will receive one or the other if you're a winner). All entries must be posted by midnight on Friday, April 25, 2008 and I'll announce the winners on Saturday, April 26, so check by here then.

Enjoy!

Homemade Italian Ice

Okay, I rarely have something domestic to share being that I'm rather domestically challenged. So, when something comes along that I actually can contribute to the annals of domesticity I feel it is my obligation to do so. In other words, "Hey ya'll, I've actually got a recipe to share! Imagine that!"

Actually, it isn't my recipe after all, but something that my daughter and her friend came up with and it tasted oh so good. You put ice in a blender. Then you pour in enough flavored Vitamin Water to barely cover the ice. Blend until ice is finely crushed (Italian ice consistency). Serve in a beautiful glass. We used wine glasses with a lemon slice twisted onto the rim. They used the lemonade version of the drink, but you could use any flavor. If you like a potent sweet you may need to add sweetener. Since those drinks are sweetened primarily with fructose, you could add some crystalline fructose for consistency's sake. However, I liked it as is with just a faint sweet taste.

These would be ideal for hot summer days or for a healthier than usual treat for the kids.

An Odd Assortment of Ramblings About Yard Sales, Books, and Excessive Living

This morning I dropped my son off at work and had every intention of stopping by Walmart to pick up some last minute birthday foods as we head into birthday week at our house (a topic for another post). I pulled in the parking lot, found it full, saw people coming and going everywhere, and sighed. I hate shopping at Walmart. I do it when I have to, but I really dislike it intensely. The thought of entering a Walmart at 11:00 on a Saturday morning was overwhelming. I sat in my car trying to work up the courage to even open the door. My kids say that I start breathing like Darth Vador whenever I have to enter a Walmart and I could feel a Vador attack coming on. I looked over my shopping list and made an executive decision- no Walmart today. I'd go to the grocery store and pay a few extra dollars, but sometimes peace of mind is worth a few extra dollars.

On the way to the store I thought I'd stop by the library and pick up some books I had on hold. Then I saw two yard sale signs. The adrenalin started pumping, my heart started racing, and excitement overtook me. I know that's a bit of an exaggerated reaction, but I absolutely love to save money and have found some really awesome bargains at yard sales.

When I got to the first sale- nothing. Second sale- nothing. But then I arrived at a third sale. I got a brand new laundry basket to replace my old falling apart one. It was the exact size, color, and style I'd been wanting for lots less than it costs in a store. I also got a pair of brand new purple ski bibs in my size. Sure wish I'd had those in Massachusetts at Christmas! In addition, I got a really pretty upholstered chair from Europe in mint condition for a mere $5! Whoopeee! The reason I got such great deals is that the people were just about to pack up because they were bored with yard saling so they literally said, "Name your price," which I did and they took it. I was reminded that the Lord orders the footsteps of a righteous man and had I not had the inclination to forego Walmart, I wouldn't have gotten to this sale on time.

On the way home from the store I took an alternate route and saw an estate sale sign. I really wasn't expecting much so I was in shock when I actually got there and saw ALL THAT STUFF! I immediately called my mother-in-law and told her I'd swing by to get her and bring her back there with me. The story goes that the deceased woman was in her 70s. She had been a high powered executive that had outlived two husbands and a boyfriend. After retiring she took up ballroom dancing and collecting things- lots and lots of things.

The house was completely loaded with silver, brass, china, cut glass, pottery, dishes, furniture, musical instruments, you name it and she had it. One entire room bigger than my living room and kitchen combined was her closet. She had racks and racks of beautiful clothes, most in my size. She had racks and closet fulls of formal dresses for ballroom dancing, also in my size. But honestly, it was in such excess that I couldn't even think of where to begin looking so I just turned and walked out.

And that's when I saw it. I couldn't believe it. I thought I was dreaming. I thought I was Belle on Beauty and the Beast. It was a giant room the size of a barn with wooden floors and ceilings and floor to ceiling bookshelves. Books lined the walls. Row after row of bookshelves stood in the middle of the room 14 foot high and loaded with books. The floors had piles of books, desks were piled high with books. Another room the size of a large garage attached to the big barn room and it was filled with books. Yet, another small shed was out back and, yes, it was loaded with books too.
Never in my life have I seen so many books in one person's house. I kid you not that she rivaled Books a Million and our huge main library downtown. Millions, it had to be millions, and multiple tractor trailor loads full of books of every kind imaginable.

Now I am a book lover and at first I thought this was paradise, but as I attempted to even begin the task of locating books I might want I just felt completely overwhelmed again. Where was one to begin? At one point I was standing between two bookshelves and realized that if someone bumped either one too hard I would be literally crushed to death by an avalanche of books. Yet, somehow I managed to find some books on writing, a book of writing quotes, two herb cookbooks, a book by Patch Adams M.D., a nature journaling book, and even one of the books that I had just checked out at the library an hour earlier- The Country Diary of an Edwardian Lady.

All of this set me thinking. First, it was obvious that the lady had a lot of enthusiasm for life and I appreciate that and her family did too. However, she also had an enormous amount of material things- things that a lot of people, organizations, schools, libraries, and charities could have put to really good use had they not been sitting collecting dust in her house. It was excess to the extreme. Even as I looked at all those books I knew she couldn't possibly have read them all or even known the titles of half of them. They were literally just sitting on shelves rotting away, and for what? What good is a book that isn't read? I was really hoping that in all of her collecting she managed to collect the one thing that really mattered- eternal life through Jesus Christ.

Another thought I had was for her family. They were so weary with all of the selling. I asked several of them what on earth they intended to do with all those books. They had no idea. They couldn't even find anyone willing to come get them. No one had a vehicle that could transport them all and no one had a storage facility big enough. One family member suggested they might have a giant bonfire and I nearly fell to my knees screeching, "No, you can't do that!" Yes, they were making money off of her stuff, but what a big hassle for all of them.

Finally, I thought about being an author. As I was packed like a sardine between bookshelves I wondered why on earth I wanted to be an author. I mean, wasn't this evidence that we clearly have enough books in the world? You would think a place like that would inspire me to write, but instead it made me want to do anything but write. I was reminded of Ecclesiastes 12:12...Of making many books there is no end, and much study wearies the body. It made me weary and longing to focus on the one thing in life that really matters.

As I surveyed this woman's earthly goods the only word I could find was excess. My hope is that she wasn't buying all that stuff in an attempt to fill an inner void that could never be filled by any of it. Either way, I made my second executive decision of the day. When I die, I don't want to leave behind rooms and rooms full of treasures (junk). I want to leave behind a legacy in the people that I've known and loved. I hope that if I die before the Lord returns people will not think "excess" when they remember me, but rather that I lived for God and for people.

The Most Wonderful Phone Call!

Last night I got a delightful surprise. I was cleaning up after supper when my husband came in the kitchen, handed me the phone, and said, "Someone wants to speak with you." I said hello and heard a deep, distinctive voice on the other end. My heart and my flesh leaped for joy as I shouted, "Pastor Mon!"

It was our dear friend, Pastor Mon Igbinosa, from Nigeria, Africa. At our house we don't just like Pastor Mon, we don't just love Pastor Mon, we absolutely adore Pastor Mon! We've known Pastor Mon for over 20 years and though it's hard to fathom, God has intricately knit our hearts with this man who lives half a world away.

He used to come teach at our former church and over the years we've gotten to know him and watched him walk through some incredible struggles. In each and every case, he was above board, a man of integrity, the real deal. That's why I always look forward to his visits and his teaching, because I know how he lives and it lines up with what he says from the pulpit. Not to mention, he always brings the "meat" of the word of God.

We switched churches a year ago and lots of water went under the bridge and we lost touch with him. Last Sunday I was sitting in my new church thinking to myself that I wish Pastor Mon could come teach there too. The more I thought about him, the more I missed him. So, I said a prayer, "God, I thank you for bringing Pastor Mon back into our lives." Then I sat and dreamed about a new house closer to my new church and I said another little prayer, "Father, I thank you that one day I'm going to have that house and it will have a prophet's chamber (guest room) and when Pastor Mon comes to the United States, he's going to stay at our house."

Then we get this most wonderful phone call- the same week! He's coming through town in May and we're going to get together. I will take pictures so you can see our precious friend.

In my closet hangs a beautiful Nigerian dress- forest greens and purple with gold needlework- a gift from Pastor Mon. When I hear him teach again, I will wear that dress. Until then, it serves as a reminder of a wonderful friend and a God who answers prayer. Thank you, Lord!

I thank my God every time I remember you. Philippians 1:3

5 Things You Didn't Know About Me

I saw this on someone else's blog and thought it would be a fun thing to do.

What was I doing ten years ago? 1998
1. Stay-at-home mom
2. Writing articles for magazines
3. Attending a Proverbs 31 Ministries encouragement group for mothers
4. Starting our homeschooling journey
5. Praying that my husband would get a new job that allowed more family time (He did four years later.)

5 things on my to-do list for today
1. Decide which writing class I'm teaching at homeschool co-op in the fall.
2. Iron my son's work pants.
3. Laundry
4. Arrange son's and daughter's birthday celebrations for next week.
5. Walk

5 snacks I enjoy
1. BBQ potato chips
2. Sour cream and onion potato chips
3. Spicy hummus on homemade pita chips
4. Chili cheese Fritos
5. Ruffles and dip
(Do we see a theme here?)

5 things I would do if I was a billionaire
1. Tithe
2. Not tell anybody
3. Build orphanages in third world countries
4. Pay for families to adopt children
5. Help families struggling to pay huge medical bills
(And make sure all of my family and friends had their needs met)

5 bad habits
1. Too prone to fear
2. Procrastination
3. Eating foods that I shouldn't
4. Opening my big mouth too casually and too often
5. Worry

5 places I have lived
1. Charlotte, N.C.
2. Kansas City, KS and MO
3. St. Louis, MO
4. Houston, Texas
5. Toledo, Ohio

5 jobs I have had
1. writer
2. writing instructor
3. registered nurse
4. certified nursing assistant
5. sales clerk in discount ladies' clothing store

Care to participate? Answer the questions on your blog and be sure to leave me a comment to let me know so I can stop by for a visit.

What Are You Doing With Your Talents?

Matthew 25:14-30
The parable of the talents starts with a man getting ready to embark on a journey. He calls his servants and gives one servant five talents, another two talents, and another one talent. While he is gone, the one with five doubles his amount, the one with two does the same, but the servant with one talent hides it in the ground. When the master returns, he is pleased with the first two servants, but calls the final servant wicked and lazy and sends him packing.

Happiness
When the master returns and gets the status reports, he says to each of the first two servants, "Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness! Matthew 25: 21, 23

The thing that really caught my attention is the correlation between faithfulness and happiness. The fellows who were being great stewards were invited to share the master's happiness, but the guy that wasn't even attempting to do anything with his talent was miserable. I wonder if we would all be much happier if we got about the business of developing and investing the talents (money, ability, personality traits, etc...) that the Lord has given us.

I like what it says in Ecclesiastes 5:19-20: Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work- this is a gift of God. He seldom reflects on the days of his life, because God keeps him occupied with gladness of heart. In other words, when we get busy with what God has given us to do we don't get depressed and consumed with "me".

Attitude
The fate of these servants rested on their attitudes. The first servant had this reaction when his master returned: "Master, he said, you entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained five more." Matthew 25:20. The second servant's words were the same except he had only doubled his two talents (Matthew 25:22). Both of their reactions could be classified as grateful humility. They were excited to be "entrusted" with talents. They viewed it as an awesome privilege and responsibility. They had a love for their master and desired to please him and make him proud, which they did.

The third servant had this to say upon the master's return: "Master," he said, "I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So I was afraid and went out and hid your talent in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you." Matthew 25:24-25 Notice the huge difference in attitude. This talent wasn't a delight to him, it was a burden, just one more thing to do. He didn't love the master, he feared him. He had the typical slave/master mentality. He wasn't about to do anything more than the absolute minimum and he would return to the master only that which was given to him, nothing more. Not only that, but this fellow was either a liar or grossly deceived. Every ability he had in life stemmed from his master, who had lovingly given him the talent in the first place. His master had definitely sowed something into his life before he expected a harvest. It was the servant's attitude toward his master, toward the talent, toward life that determined his destiny.

Opportunity
Why did the master give talents to the servants? If he had simply needed someone to watch over his property he could have chosen one servant or hired someone. He certainly didn't need to divide things up between three servants. He gave them talents because he loved them and wanted to present them with an opportunity to prove themselves faithful and thereby receive promotion and reward.

He also expected them to carry on his business. The goal was to gain, not just maintain. It says in Matthew 25:19 that when he returned he "settled accounts" with them. He was expecting something from them when he returned. They were to continue to grow his property in his absence. In essence, he was giving them a chance to advance beyond being a simple servant. They had an opportunity to become overseers and bosses.

Another thing to note is the meticulous care the master exhibited when he assigned the talents to the servants. It says that he gave to each "according to his ability" (Matthew 25:15). He wasn't a hard taskmaster, but rather more like a loving father. He thought through all of this before taking action. He looked at each servant's skills and natural giftings and he assigned talents accordingly. He didn't overburden anyone, but gave each one what he knew he could handle. He set them up for success!

Application
What about us? What has the Lord entrusted to our care? What are we doing with it? Do we have the right attitude or are we paralyzed with fear? Do we view work as an opportunity or a drudgery? Are we missing out on God's blessing because we simply won't get up and try to do develop our abilities?

God has given each of us talents and abilities to be used to further His kingdom and in the process we will be blessed. It's interesting that these verses never tell us whether or not the servants enjoyed what they did to gain more talents. Hopefully, they did, but their real joy was found in pleasing the master and that is where we will find our real joy too- when we are faithful.

Meet Ginger

Would you like to meet the next Erma Bombeck? In honor of Newspaper Columnists Day (April 18) I'd like to introduce you to my friend, Ginger Truitt, who also happens to be my favorite columnist and is well on her way to being a modern day Erma.

Ginger writes hilarious articles about everyday life that will have you holding your sides and gasping for air. I forewarn you, though, that if you're looking for prim, proper, and straight-laced, Ginger isn't the girl for you. She calls it as she sees it and she sees it from an extraordinarily witty slant.

I met Ginger many years ago on a homeschool message board. I knew her back in the days before she got famous and all. I think I even knew her before she was crowned Mrs.Boone County and became one of the few women that have a real, not imaginary, tiara. I remember when she first started writing a column and I've had the privilege of watching her grow into the marvelous writer that she is today.

To read some of Ginger's articles go here and to get to know her even better visit her blog. You're sure to get an abdominal workout from laughing.

Thoughts From Matthew 24

This morning I was reading Matthew 24 and a few scriptures jumped out at me.

1. Then you will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death, and you will be hated by all nations because of me. Matthew 24:9

Can you imagine if you were one of Jesus' disciples looking Him eye to eye when He made that statement? That doesn't exactly sound like a typical Jesus message does it? Words like persecuted, hated, and death might make us want to run and hide. But those were actual words...spoken by Jesus...to His disciples.

You see, when we become Christians we aren't inducted into the "Bless Me" club. Yes, we are extraordinarily blessed and, yes, we have great reason for hope and joy, but that doesn't mean we will never experience anything hard in life. In John 16:33, Jesus said, In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. The good news isn't that everything will be all comfy cozy. The good news is that we are overcomers through Him.

2. At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other, and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:10-11

We read these statements, but what do they actually look like in real life? Well, let's take a very hypothetical scenario to examine. Let's say, hypothetically speaking, that an ultra popular talk show host that influences multitudes of people suddenly starts tooting that we can feel our way to God and believing is no longer important. And let's just suppose that all those multitudes that are influenced by said talk show host fall for this new doctrine hook, line, and sinker. I know this is preposterous thinking and this would neeeeever really happen in the real modern day world in which we live, but indulge me for a moment and imagine if something so ridiculous really did happen. Then what? Well, if we didn't want to be one of the many talked about in Matthew 24, it would be a really good time to put away all the nifty new books we're reading and read our Bible to see what it actually says about God, life, death, and everything else.

3. For as lightning that comes from the east is visible even in the west, so will be the coming of the Son of Man. Matthew 24:27

Don't worry, when the Lord returns no one will miss it, not even CNN.

4. At that time the sign of the Son of Man will appear in the sky, and all nations of the earth will mourn. They will see the Son of Man coing on the clouds of the sky, with power and great glory. Matthew 24:30

I think this verse is so cool for a couple of reasons. First, it talks about a sign in the sky. The first time Jesus came a star appeared in the sky (and wise men took notice and followed it). When the kids were younger we went to a local nature museum that gave a presentation about this star and the theories that surround it. It was fascinating. I'm guessing that if a star appeared the first time we might expect something similar the next time too.

The other exciting thing about this verse is it says He will come with "power and great glory". He's not coming as a little baby in a manger. He's coming as a King that will reign forever. And that's not hypothetical!

Celebrate April 17, 2008

In case you're wondering what's the deal with this lady and all of her weirdo holidays. Well, I enjoy learning about these days, but also I hope to add a little fun to other lives. I do not in any way mean this to be one more thing to add to your already busy days, but just a way to add a little fun if you're so inclined. These are great little tools for parents, particularly homeschooling parents, but really any parents who want to add a little extra spark to your family time. Kids tend to like goofy things like this and I have to admit that since I started posting these I've been more intentional about a lot of things, including having fun. So if you like them use them, if not just skip it.

Even though it isn't yet April 17 as I type this, I'm going to pretend it is so just play along.

Today is Ford Mustang Day. If you happen to own a stang give it a little tender loving care today. Wash it. Wax it. Take it for a long drive- if you can afford the gas. This would be a great day to introduce the kiddos to a fellow named Henry Ford.

Today is High Five Day. Instead of handshakes or hugs, give high fives today. You know what I think is so fun about high fives? Even the smallest of kids can get the hang of it and they think it is so cool.

Today is Blah, Blah, Blah Day. My understanding of this holiday is that you're supposed to do the things others have been nagging you to do. That's all good and well and if someone has been counting on you to do something then by all means do it. But I think this is also a great day to do whatever has been nagging at you on the inside. Do you need to write a note to someone who needs encouragement? Does something need to be organized in your home or office? Do you need to make a concerted effort to get back on that diet and exercise regimen? Whatever keeps nagging at you- just do it. I guess that means I'm off to clean the master bathroom and go for a long, break-a-sweat walk.

Today is National Cheeseball Day. In honor of this day I'll share one of my favorite cheeseball recipes from my friend, Joy.

Joy's Ham and Cheese Log
1- 8 oz. cream cheese, softened
1 TBSP mayonnaise
1/2 tsp Worcestershire sauce
2 TBSP chopped olives
1 TBSP minced parsley
1 tsp chopped onion
1/2 cup finely chopped beef or ham

Add mayo and Worcestershire sauce to cream cheese. Mix well. Add olives, parsley, and onion. Chill until firm. Roll in ham. Garnish with parsley. Serve with crackers.

Celebrate April 16, 2008

Today is National Wear Your Pajamas to Work Day. Considering I'm typing this in my pjs and robe, I guess I'm celebrating. Plus, I had pajama day at co-op last week so I celebrated early. If you're already at work then I guess you'll just have to miss this one, but if not...then I'd suggest you miss it anyway unless you forewarned your boss.

Today is National Eggs Benedict Day. Ya'll just celebrate away and eat all of it you want because it doesn't sound remotely appealing to me at the moment. In fact, I can't remember exactly what Eggs Benedict is, but I just remember it's something that I don't like.

Today is National Stress Awareness Day. I'm assuming that doesn't mean we're supposed to suddenly become aware that we have stress in our lives. I think most stressed out people are quite aware of that already. However, this would be a great day to get intentional about reducing stress in our lives. I plan to spend some time reading on my deck...right after I run all of my errands and do the grocery shopping.

Today is National Librarian Day. I thought I just typed this a few days ago, but whether I did or didn't, do something special for your favorite librarian if you happen by the library today. A comment of thanks will do in a pinch.

Today is International Moment of Laughter Day. I know that I said this on April 14 as well. However, I found two different dates and haven't a clue which one is correct and since a little more laughter isn't going to hurt anybody, feel free to giggle, roar, cackle, or whatever you do to add a little humor to your life. If you have kids, you could always resort to knock knock jokes.

If Only I Had Walked the Earth With Jesus

When Peter came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he was clearly in the wrong. Before certain men came from James, he used to eat with the Gentiles. But when they arrived, he began to draw back and separate himself from the Gentiles because he was afraid of those who belonged to the circumcision group. Galatians 2:11-12

Have you ever had thoughts like these:

"If only I had walked the earth with Jesus, I wouldn't have the struggles I have today."

"If I had been one of the disciples living with Jesus day in and day out, learning from the master, I'd be a lot different."

If only I could have walked with Jesus in the flesh, I wouldn't be plagued by fear, prone to selfishness, and jealousy would be no more because I would be with Him- completely satisfied." (And in case you're wondering, yes, those are areas that I struggle with on a regular basis).

I've had thoughts like those, longing to hang out with Jesus in His day watching how He lived and learning from Him. But I have only to remember the childbirth and dentistry practices of that era to realize that God definitely knew which generation I belonged to. "She's one of that weinie bunch that can't handle pain. Put her in the age of medical technology."

Yet, here is Peter, a man that walked with Jesus as a close friend and he is struggling with something as earthly as peer pressure (Galatians 2:11-12). Matter of fact, this wasn't the first time Peter had struggled with this issue. In Luke 22:54-62, he denied Jesus three times because he didn't want to stand out from the crowd and risk possible death or imprisonment. Right there with the physical Son of God in his presence he caved in to peer pressure and fear.

Well, if Peter did that, why should we assume that we would be any different? Why should we assume that if we saw Jesus face to face on this earth, we would suddenly be completely different with no more fleshly struggles? If we're Christians, we have Jesus living on the inside of us, even closer than having his body walking beside us everyday. Yet, we still struggle with junk, don't we? As long as we walk this earth in this natural body we will have issues. Even if Jesus was here in the flesh, we would still have issues.

But that isn't where the story ends. Thankfully, we can overcome things even without Jesus' flesh and blood body standing beside us (Revelation 12:11). We can be transformed day by day into His image (Romans 12:2). And if we have invited Jesus to live in our hearts we have the glorious promise that one day we will see Him face to face and we will be like Him because we will see Him as He really is (I John 3:2).

Celebrate April 14 and 15, 2008

Once again the day is almost done so it's a little late to celebrate for today. I decided to go ahead and include some celebrations for tomorrow in case I'm running late again.

Funny thing, yesterday I blogged that it was Organize Your Files Week and even commented that God might give me a special grace to do just that. Guess what I did today! I organized my files- all of them! Never in a million years did I think I could or would even be inclined to do that, but it happened. I filled two gigantic trash bags full of papers and shreddings. It feels so freeing!

Back to today.

Today is International Moment of Laughter Day. Guess you could still fit a chuckle in before snoozing.

Today is National Pecan Day. It would have been a great day to make some pecan pie. Oh well.

Today is Look Up At the Sky Day. I sort of pictured looking at a blue sky, but stars are nice too.

Today is Reach as High as You Can Day. I sure hope that means physically because after all that file organizing I'm not feeling overly ambitious.

Tomorrow is Rubber Eraser Day. Honestly, who thinks up these celebrations? Tomorrow would be a good day to erase bad attitudes, past sins, and any unforgiveness or bitterness that we are harboring.

Tomorrow is Titanic Remembrance Day. Watch the movie. Read some books. Go for a boat ride. Take a cruise. Just don't sink.

Happy Anniversary Branch Family Church!

I was glad when they said unto me, "Let us go into the house of the Lord." Psalm 122:1

I love my church! I absolutely 100% love my church! We've only been there for a year, but I can truly say that I'm glad every time I go to the house of the Lord. In fact, our whole family feels that same way.

Today we celebrated our fifth anniversary as a church. Actually, we've been celebrating for the last three weeks, but today was the big shindig on the actual property where our new church building will be built. Currently, we meet in a recreation center.

Go Deep was on hand to lead worship and they did a terrific job. Truly, they led us to "go deep" into the presence of God.

Dennis Burke was our guest speaker and he delivered a powerful message. I'm still chewing the cud on this one because it was so rich and he shed light on so many scriptures that I want to go back and read and meditate on myself.

The afternoon was filled with lots of good food: catered BBQ and burgers. Baby Girl made some of her homemade Baklava for the dessert table

and judging by the empty plate, I'd say it was a
big hit.

The kids had a grand time with the inflatables. Horseshoes, volleyball, fellowship, and nippy weather. A wonderful afternoon.

I'm so thankful for my precious church family that I've just barely gotten to know, but hope to know much better in the coming years. I'm especially thankful for two wonderful people that obeyed the call of God and moved halfway across the country to follow a dream, Pastors Derek and Sarah Turner. I'm so glad that I get to be part of that manifested dream and to do life with the two of you! You're the best!

Celebrate the Week of April 13-19, 2008

This week is National Library Week. (Don't know for sure if that's correct, but close enough). You could celebrate in several ways.
a. Go to the library and check out books.
b. Take some special goodies to your librarians or write them a note of appreciation.
c. Donate any extra books you have around the house (ones that belong to you!).
d. Return your overdue books and pay the fines.

This week is National Personal Training Week. Whether you have a personal trainer or not, get up and get moving. In honor of this week, I'm officially getting back on my diet and exercise regimen.

This week is the Week of the Young Child. If you have little ones, take time to really enjoy them this week. They won't be little for long. Since it's also National Library Week why don't you make a special trip to the library for story hour?

This week is National Inspirational News Week. We're bombarded by bad news constantly. Let's make a conscious effort this week to spread good news, even the very best news of all, that Jesus died for our sins.

This week is Organize Your Files Week. Uh oh, I'm in trouble. I'm going to attempt to do something about my files this week, but to get them fully organized, that might take a while. Maybe the Lord will give me special grace to get it done. That would be wonderful! If your files need some organizing this is the week to do it. Think of it as a celebration of the holiday so it won't just seem like work.

Celebrate April 13, 2008

Even though the day is almost done, you still have a few hours to celebrate some really important things today.

Today is Scrabble Day. If you're bored this evening, dig out the Scrabble board and have at it.

Today is International Plant Appreciation Day. Give those plants some tender loving care this evening. My plants would just be thankful for water, which is a good thing because that is all they're likely to get.

Today is Thomas Jefferson Day. If you're one of those intellectual types or history buffs this would be a good time to read a book about T.J. or look up some information online. My son just did a massive research project on Thomas Jefferson so I think I'm good for the time being.

The Nitty Gritty of Publishing

I get a lot of questions about writing and teaching writing and, frankly, answering these questions is a joy and delight for me. One of my favorite things to do is help other writers, so if you have any questions, feel free to leave them in my comment section at any point in time and I'll do my best to address them.

Melissa writes: I wonder where you would suggest I look for more inside scoop on getting published. You know, the nitty gritty of that aspect of writing. I have an idea for an article that I thought I might submit to a magazine but I have NO idea where to start.

Great question, Melissa! I have a few suggestions for you. The first is to get your hands on either Sally Stuart's Christian Writers' Market Guide or The Writers' Market Guide, depending on what type of article you are writing. If it's a Christian-oriented article then you would probably need to go with Sally Stuart's Christian Writers' Market Guide, otherwise you could use the other guide. You can usually find older copies of either of these in the library so you can get a feel for what they offer, but if you plan to submit something you want the current annual edition so you will be using the most up-to-date information.

Market guides tell you who the publishers are, how to contact them, what types of things they publish, what they pay (if anything), the length of articles that they accept, what format they want things in, whether you should send the whole article or just a query letter, and a plethora of other nitty gritty details. Writing the article is only half the equation. Finding the correct market is just as important as writing well. A lot of writers get rejection notices not because they are poor writers, but because they don't take the time to find the right market for their piece.

Another thing I would suggest is to look around you for potential writing markets. Do you belong to any groups that have newsletters or e-zines? What about a hometown newspaper? Does your church have a bulletin that prints articles? Are you familiar with websites that use freelance material? Publishing opportunities for writers abound everywhere. They may not be big or paying markets, but they are a wonderful way to get your feet wet and learn the ropes of writing/publishing. I attribute much of my writing success today to a small newsletter for homemakers that eventually turned into a national magazine and a leading women's ministry. Those little articles that I wrote for free have opened many doors for me over the long haul.

Finally, if you already have some magazines in mind, take a look at their writer's guidelines. You can find these by visiting the magazine's website. If they accept freelance material, they will have their writer's guidelines somewhere on the site. These guidelines will give you all the details you need for submitting to that particular publication.

I hope this helps and let me know if you get that article published!

Celebrate the Month of April- part 1

I have a big list of celebrations for the month of April. I can't vouch that all of them are completely correct, but celebrate anyway.

April is National Poetry Month- Spring affords ample opportunity for poetry inspiration. Whether you're a poet or not, try your hand at a few verses. Remember, poetry doesn't have to follow a particular pattern or rhyme. If you have kids, take them outside and see if they can get in touch with their inner poet. You'll probably have to set the example first.

It's a good time to explore the works of great poets. Though some folks find him controversial, my kids and most others that I know have enjoyed the poetry of Shel Silverstein. His poems are fun- for the most part.

April is National Kite Month- Weather permitting, get outside and try your hand at kite flying. If you want more information about kites check out this site. If you're looking for some extreme kite flying adventures or to buy a new kite this site and this site look interesting. If you want to make it into a big learning experience you might look here. Wow! I got excited just looking over those sites.

April is also all of these things that sort of get lumped together into the Home & Garden category:
Home Improvement Month
National Landscape Architecture Month
National Prepare Your Home to Be Sold Month (this one's for you, Marybeth)
Lawn and Garden Month
National Decorating Month -If your hubby asks why you're spending all that money just say you're celebrating a national holiday.

April is also Southern Belle Month- Count me in! Many years ago my mother-in-law made a comment that southern women were rather demanding and ever since my hubby has referred to me as his demanding little southern belle. I think I'll spend the rest of the month lounging in my recliner sipping a Mint Julep and not liftin' my little ole fanger to do anything. Thank you kindly. "Honey, would you be so kind as to retrieve my slippers for me?" "Darlin', I'm just a tad chilly, could you get my wrap?" "I do declare, my lipstick is plum worn off. Get my make-up bag, Sugah." Yes, I do think I'll make this one a hearty celebration!

More celebrations to come later. That's enough partying for now.

Celebrate April 12, 2008

Today is Baby Massage Day. Kind of makes you want to be an infant again, doesn't it? I first learned about baby massage when I was a Neonatal Intensive Care nurse. It's actually quite interesting. If you would like to learn more, this site seems to have a lot of information. Make it a baby spa day for the little ones at your house!

Today is also Licorice Day. I'll sit this one out as I've never been a fan of licorice. However, if you have licorice lovers at your house this would be a good day to eat some.